“someone who believes in the Torah and calls themselves orthodox but wears short skirts isn’t frum.”
If there is ANYTHING that we should leave to Rabbonim is the right to say that someone is not “frum”. (the word frum. Where does it come from? Is it yiddish? what does it mean literally.)
Do you really believe that girls/women from torahdik homes (I’ll even expand the question to non jewish girls and women )get dressed in the morning and think about how to attract men? If you do, there is nothing I can say or do to change your mind nor do I have the desire to change your mind.