Midwest2 –
As I wrote above, I give BT’s 100% credit and admire them for deciding to become Torah-observant Jews; I’m not denigrating BT’s.
I’m sure that it’s not easy for them to become Frum, especially if they have to deal with opposition from their families.
All I’m saying is that some BT’s want to marry only FFB’s and not other BT’s, and some FFB’s hesitate to marry BT’s because of the issues with the BT’s non-Frum families, unless the BT stops participating with the non-Frum families’ “Simchas.”
I would be curious to know who is the Rov who permits a BT to attend a “Conservative” wedding (to keep family good-will), where there are so many violations of the Torah; as the Conservative “rabbis” (and especially “gay” or women rabbis) are not rabbis, a double-ring ceremony is not a Jewish ceremony, and there is mixed seating and immodest dress and men and women dancing together to non-Jewish music), etc.) ?