Yes, Popa. It looks like you’re flipping the question back to me, also. (Thank you, The Big One.)
What I posted here about Judaism is what was taught to me in Yeshiva.
The violations of Judaism which occur at non-Frum events are Giluy Aroyos (e.g. immodest dressing, and men and women dancing together, and to non-Jewish music), which is forbidden by the Torah. Also, their “Rabbis” are the “Rabbis” of a religion that violates the Torah. (gay/women Rabbis; double-ring ceremonies; not necessary to keep Kashrus, Shabbos, Taharas HaMishpacha, and Tznius; ok to practice homosexuality; ok to marry a non-Jew; as long as one parent is Jewish, the child is Jewish, even if it’s not the mother. All of these are acceptable in non-Orthodox religions.)
Are there any Torah-observant Jews here who believe otherwise?
I am an FFB married to a BT, as is oomis1105, so I’m experienced with dealing with non-Frum family.
For one example, one of my in-laws, A”H, once got annoyed with me, in the middle of the year of Avaylus for one of my parents, A”H, because I wouldn’t attend the in-law’s non-Frum sibling’s 70th birthday party with music and mixed dancing in the basement of a Reform temple.
Besides the Giluy Aroyos issue, and the Reform temple issue, evidently my year of mourning for my parent, which is the last Kibud that I could give my parent, did not count.
Another example: When one of the Reform nephews got engaged to a non-Jewess, we were asked to attend the engagement party.
I asked, “Is the bride Jewish?”
Answer from in-law: “No, but she’s a very nice girl.”
So my BT spouse and I refused to attend either engagement party or wedding, and we sent no gifts, and also no gifts when a child was born.
These are just 2 examples.
So I’ve been there.
So again, who are these anonymous Rabbis who are meikel for BT’s in the interest of Sholom Bayis, and what are they meikel?