sorry i’m responding so late-
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A little nervous about admitting this publicly, but…
I look specifically for a realistic form of financial support. I need the peace of mind to know I can stay home with my babies if I want to, and not worry about food on the table. Also, I don’t want to depend on charity from ANYONE – not my parents, not the gov’t, not a yeshiva (unless he’s working for them), not his parents. It just really bothers me to be a taker.
Am I the only one? I still have to figure out how to say this to shadchanim. “
boy boy boy your waiting to be screamed at. Money comes and goes, here today gone tomorrow. yiras shamayim and midos don’t. i know people personally and i pitty them because they married into such rich families… that they’re supported by them and own houses because of them…. that the poor daughter in laws have to dress according to the way the mother in law wants… things are NOT NOT NOT at ALLL so simple as they seem. Money is convenient but you never know what goes on behind close doors. It’s a package deal. I would rather live a simple life and make my own choices of what to wear, dress my children in , what school to send them to… etc.
unfortunately people are so blinded by money, i know of a shidduch taht the couple got divorced because to begin with , it wasn’t a good match but they were so blinded.