Sacrilege, perhaps this is a discussion for a different topic, but I understand perfectly how immersion could change your opinion. Here is a quote from a secular personality that sums up pretty nicely why the anti-gay rights movement makes no sense:
“All gays and lesbians want from evangelical Christians is the same deal the Jews and the yoga instructors and the atheists and the divorced and the adulterers and the rich all get: full civil equality despite the going-to-hell business.”
Makes perfect sense from a Christian pov. Why should gays be treated any differently from Jews, or any divorced-and-remarried person? Their anti-gay stance is simply hypocritical, inconsistent, and biased. Any fair-minded Christian would agree that there is no categorical difference and no reason to deny one group the same rights extended to the other groups.
Makes perfect sense from a legal pov. Unless you go and redefine marriage with the terms “one man and one woman”, there is no rational exclusion for any two people to be joined in a legal marriage.
From a Jewish point of view there is no such inconsistency, and a perfectly ‘rational’ exculsion. The Torah forbids such a union. The Torah does not forbid non-Jews or divorcees to marry, nor does it condemn them to hell. Therefore, neither do we. WRT gays, we have a responsibility to try and prevent the legitimization of such an anti-Torah concept, as well as any other anti-Torah concepts. We are not being hypocritical or biased, rather consistent followers of our faith. We may lose the battle, since it is not our country, but we have a solid position on the issue.