Why not go more than a misheberach, and every time you see an IDF soldier give him a hug and tell him how much he means to you, and what a great zchus he has to protect the klal. Maybe slowly you’ll see a diminishing of the animosity between the secular and chareidi. Why not make a dinner in honor of the IDF and dance with the soldiers?
Reb Aryeh Levin once told a street sweeper he was jealous of his olam haba, because he has the mitzvah of keeping the streets of Yerushalayim clean at 5:30 am every morning. He begged him to let him use his broom.
It is still unfathomable to me how anybody can think we are worse off with the Medinah than we were without it. If someone can explain, please do so.