WIY: You speak with anger and frustration. Perhaps you are reflecting you own personal struggles on others? You struggle with the negative impact television, films, and music have had on you, and I suspect your hashkafic and halachik background has not given you the tools to deal with these issues. As a result you are frustrated; frustrated by your own inability to rectify your outer appearance with your inner uncertainty, and frustrated by what you perceive as the looming danger that is sure to strike countless unsuspecting young Jewish boys and girls certain to fall into the same trap as you.
As one deeply involved in many areas on non-Jewish (though I will venture to say, not anti-Torah) study, and intimately familiar with all the world has to offer, I must say i do not share your fear and consternation. Thank God, I have been taught, and have myself studied how one can deal effectively with all that life in this world entails b’menuchas hanefesh. I have not played ostrich and stuck my head in the sand pretending its not there; I have not banished the world from my sight out of fear of being negatively influenced by it, only to leave it to bring down those such as yourself who are less well prepared for the challenge. I have engaged the world and all that is in it. I have evaluated all the intellectual ideas and social norms with which I have been privileged to come in contact, and consider their value or lack thereof in light of the rules and principles of the Torah.
I feel for your apparent inner turmoil. But please, please don’t do as so many others and reflect your frustrations on others to their own detriment. Not all are like you, and not all will benefit from applying your experiences to their own lives. Indeed, it is precisely that idea – that one person’s perspective or experience can serve as a cookie-cutter template for everyone else – that leads to the development of those “bad” children you are so very afraid of.