Aishes,
I remember learning it in the context that (e.g.,) if someone seriously aggrieved a woman, she can unload her burden to her husband. From this, I get the sense that the talking out of the problems should be done in a private setting with a confidant, rather than in public.
That said, without the video, I could see a toeles in discussing the problems caused by the TV appearance, including the chillul Hashem and embarrassment caused to other Jews, but I don’t think anyone new should know who specifically the story was about, and cause further ruin to their lives. At this point, nobody here personally knows this family, but already there has been one post to the effect of, “my brother-in-law knows who they are!” and it’s only a matter of time before word spreads from this forum into their real life world.
Turkeyneck,
I’m not sure that TV can be considered a 100% faithful representation of reality. A boring one-hour case can be edited down to a much more scandalous sounding (and ratings garnering) 24 minute bit. I was once interviewed for a newspaper story while in high school, and my words were taken considerably out of context to fit into a story already dreamed up by the reporter. None of my words were changed, but they were used to portray me as more nervous than I was to contrast me with another fellow who was very self-confident. No damage was done, but as a high schooler I felt quite embarrassed. I learned a valuable lesson to not rely so much on TV and newspapers as “truth”!