The problem I have with the initial premise is NOT that girls shouldn’t put their best feet forward – I think most if not all women feel good when they maximize their assets – but that girls (and women) are being held to some arbitrary artificial standard of beauty.
There are women who are (some of you may need to sit down for this) ten pounds overweight who are beautiful.
Some women may favor one look over an another.
Some women can’t wear heels. Get over it.
I could keep going.
Last week’s Hamodia magazine had a great story: a young woman goes to the shadchan after having sent her a photo for the file. She was pretty pumped about the photo, having made some effort for it. So she finds the shadchan in tears – tears! – because she didn’t have anyone pretty enough for the best catch (sic) she had. And poor, poor guy. What was the shadchan doing wrong? Did she need to get a better quality meat in her stable? Yes, that was the story (though that last sentence was mine, but it was clearly said in not so many words).
So this is where we’re coming from.
FWIW, I’ve been married for a while. No sour grapes. One case of a child who wasn’t anorexic enough for someone.