Again, why do you pick on frum women? ARe you saying that the women your husband was looking at on the internet was untzniusdik frum women? Obviously NOT! In addition, he came to you with a problem. He should have worked on his problem prior to getting married and NOT bring it in to marriage. Obviously you love your husband but why are you making excuses for him???? Why did it take him so long to ‘fess up to you? YOUR husband has a problem!! Part of that problem is admitting it and seeking help. Blaming what other people do or don’t do is foolish, your husband’s problem is his, HE owns it and HE needs to choose between feeding it and giving in to it or getting help. At this point when he was risking too much he chose to get help, but instead of holding your husband responsible and accountable you fault others. HOW is that going to help him?
If a woman is standing unclothed in a room a man has the option to stay or walk away. Many goyim will stay and gawk, it would take a special goy to walk away. Most frum men would walk away it would take a very weak frum man to stay. That would be a man who forgets who else is watching! Yes frum JEWS men and women have certain obligations but blaming someone else for anyone not being responsible for their own actions is ludicrous. YES we can ALL work on OUR middos and commitment but we are not the only ones on this earth as you proved with your husband’s internet addiction which had nothing to do with untznius frum women. AND we can’t shelter everyone from the world around us. WE each have to remember that we stand before the KING and everything we do is seen and noted.