1dayatatime, I know all about addictions, thank you very much for assuming too much. I have dealt with many kids with drug and alcohol addictions and those who enable them do more harm than good! Maybe YOU don’t know anything about that! Everyone knows they have an addiction they just don’t want to label it such. Everyone knows when they are doing something wrong or they would be doing it in public for all to see.
Are you saying that those with this sort of addiction are out in the open about it or are they careful to cover their tracks? Well if they know enough to hide it they know they have a problem and they know that THEY have to choose whether to feed their addiction or get help. This guy hid it from his wife for 5 years. Obviously he knew he had a problem because he was careful to hide it from her. Do YOU get that? Do not sympathize with the abuser! Do not enable them! Do not make excuses for them! The only way to help an addict is to make them responsible and accountable for their actions. That is something YOU should learn about addiction.