Individual:
“I have been to more weddings than I can count for young women over 21 this past year. (I think I went to at least 5 just over the summer, and have a few approaching.)”
B”H – as i have written numerous times- significant progress is being made day by day week by week.
Canine: if you notice not a single suggesion was made “telling” girls to hold of dating. the reason- they won’t listen so why waster time. But things can be done to have eligible boys date girls their own age.
Regarding girls getting married at 21 or a bit older vs. 19, I’ll leave that to the Rabbonim and R”Y to decide if it’s kedai to encourage boys to date/marry girls thier own age even though inevitably more girls will get married slightly later.
70 R”Y signed a letter answering that question very clearly
regarding why it wasn’t like this 30 years ago… here’s some anecdoatal to chew on.
1. Take my elemmentary schoold there were maybe 3 families with 10 children. nowadays it’s pretty common, then it wasn’t. It’s called population growth.
2. not all boys started dating at 22/23. far far more boys began younger.