My father is a great Talmid Chacham (Rosh Kollel), and he certainly does what the Shulchan Oruch says. He used to get drunk every Purim, and I mean REAL drunk. It was nausiating and even frightening. I used to have nightmares about this,and actually developed some kind of a phobia. For my sake, he stopped drinking. Now, THIS is what I call a mitzva! Purim is supposed to be a happy Yom Tov, NOT a sad one. And if it made me sad, he stopped. I think ur allowed to get drunk, but, PLEASE don’t get “Stone Drunk”. Your wife/kids have a heart too! Don’t make it hard on them. And if your wife begs you not to get drunk, then, I don’t think you’re oiver on the Shulchan Oruch. If you davka want to be yoitze, take a nap.
A Freileche Purim to all of you!!!