Reply To: Correcting a misconception about parnassah

No one is entitled to be supported, and no one has the excuse to be an Ani by choice and therefore require support.

Absolutely. The exception being that klal Yisroel has a responsibility to support those that are learning Torah since it is something that benefits the klal.

I agree. The responsibility though, is on the Klal (in the person of its individuals) for the Klal, not on the individual for the individual.

Prove to me the Tolna Rebbe is a gadol, please.

Sure, just tell me what the required criteria in your eyes are to become one.

You don’t have to prove anything, Joseph does.

anonforthis:

You are right. It could be their Torah. Because I don’t know, I think the best thing is to give money to any public Torah institution–such as a kollel.

Once again agreed. There are halachos of Tzedaka involved as well. The opinion of many Rabbonim is at Tuition for your children comes first, as well as your own Limud HaTorah. As such:

The parent should not make sacrifices for his SIL if:

1: His own learning will suffer.

2: His support of others (such as other Mosdos) will suffer, especially if those other mosdos are doing more for the Klal as far as Limud HaTorah is concerned.

And since he has to support anyway because otherwise his daughter will not get a shidduch, and his learning will suffer, or he can’t pay tuition, and/or the SIL doesn’t learn with real hasmadah and will is not a good “investment”, makes the FIL resentful.

I actually think we are mostly on the same page here.