When we were first married, we lived in an apartment building on a middle floor. We had neighbors, above, below and on 2 sides of us. We had many of the same problems mentioned by various people here. This is not the place for specifics, but when we spoke to a Rav he told us that everyone has a right to love in an apartment “normally”. Walking around your apartment, in a pair of shoes (this was one of the specific issues that came up) on a wooden floor is considered normal. If it bothers the tenant below, let them buy earplugs or move (or learn to live with it). The only obnoxious behavior that anyone really had from any neighbor was from those who smoked and caused a stench in others apartments. The Rav called it “giri dilay” among other things and told him to take his smokes outside where it wouldnt bother anyone.
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