yoyo-somehow you do not realize that you are giving off an ‘i am available, i am cute’, demeanor, and it is working – people react to it, and, yes, it feels good, it’s fun to flirt and to have boys look at you and think you are cute and pretty- this is something that is a yetzer horah from time immemorial. Nothing new, nothing strange-You have to deal with it, it is your personality, and if you don’t stop it, it will always be there – you do not want to do anything wrong, and that is where you are headed. Don’t wait till it is out of control. That is why our chachamim made gedarim. When you feel yourself slipping, just say Fire, Fire, and RUN – Get into a different circle, get interested in other things, i said it before, listen to shiurim, they will pierce your heart and give you protection. I’m sorry if I am strong-but you need to realize, stop talking and obsesssing about it- you are not the first and you won’t be the last- all that matters is how you handle it – just do what has worked for others in your situation, get away, get involved, and learn mussar. You will be so proud of yourself for everyday that you pass this test..iy’h you will marry someone who will adore your cute pretty personality and you will raise pure neshamos, and you will always look back proudly instead of with regret. All the best!
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