Eclipse is not the only spouse that has been burnt. There are many such stories and there are many children who have ignored and disrespected a parent because they have been brainwashed. WE don’t know what the future holds fore Eclipse and her children so don’t be so quick to judge what she should and shouldn’t do in the future. As I said, everything is in Hashem’s hands. And IF the time comes, when her children will need to know the truth if the future. Again I say IF and again I say in the future, not when they are young but when they are old and wise and need to have more wisdom then Hashem will lead them to the truth, but the truth needs to be available.
Please do not forget about the case nebech where the father molested the daughter and not only abused the wife but had the sons abuse her as well. He brainwashed all the children against her and took them all away from her. She is now remarried and I hope one day they will all ask mechilah from her and remember the truth about both their parents. The truth about the evil father and the battered, bruised, humiliated and abused mother.
It is NOT so simple TBT as you say. YOU don’t know what goes on in the mind of an abuser. YOU don’t know what thoughts he can plant in the mind of impressionable children. He can tell them that Eclipse didn’t want them and that is why he took them to raise them. He can tell them that she was crazy and he saved them from her. YOU don’t know. Therefore she must write it down because they are not going to confide in her what he says to them, and one day they might want to know the truth and the truth has to be available to them because they might want to ask mechila from their mother. It goes so much deeper than the surface.