SJSinNY: I cannot see any logic behind that claim. Divorce now and fix later doesn’t make any sense to me, if marriage is a serious deal. Do you throw out a bike first, then learn how to ride, then buy a new bike?
Yes, learn how to ride better, but don’t throw out the bike in order to buy a new one. How can there be an honest assesment of the bike if one doesn’t know how to ride properly?
The marriage is the ride, the spouse is the rider. Don’t throw out the “faulty” bike/marriage prior to learning how to ride/behave married. The new bike doesn’t help, iff it’s the rider who is “broken”. Yes, riding while not knowing how to ride is toxic. Throwing out the bike is not even a band-aid!