I AM APPALED THAT PPL ARE SUGGESTING THAT SHE JSUT WALK OUT OF THE MARRIAGE!
how can someone not knowing the full story and both sides advicate such a thing???
Op-its so sad for me to hear wut you are going through. You need to go to someone who knows you both and not ask advice from everyone. In the mean time, be the best you can be. I know a couple, hu went thru gehemin together. He wouldnt go to counsling, he was abusive verbally and the screaming/ breaking dishes were constant. She didnt get herself together at all and he felt no attraction to her. He slowly started slipping down in yiddishkeit and cursing and missing shacharis became a constant. But she was devoted and determined to make it work. And they started so small. After much pleading and begging they went for a walk and decided on that walk to give eachother 15 minutes a nite, to discuss wtvr they needed to, in quieter voicesand that small thing they kept to. And many times theyd argue those 15 minutes, and it wasnt peaceful. But she davened and made sure for that small time to get herself together nicely and be there, and make it her priority. And her recognized that and appreciated it. I want to tell you its 14 years later and they are an example of what shalom bayis is. A beautiful family and beautiful marriage. he is learning full time now and things worked out. I’m not saying this should be ur solution. Maybe you need to start somtheing small, talk to a rav, wtvr. I’m just saying that im appalled by how easily ppl can suggest to walk out. i understand they want to help you and encourage you and side with you, but then we ask why the divorce rate is so high.
hold strong. go to ppl hu understand both sides, and do ur part and most improtantly daven.
I personally grew up in a home of divorce, and I can def say looking back, that it cldve 100% have been prevented. No, its not like this in all cases. But dont heed advice from ppl you dont know and hu will encourage you to make such a step
The only rite ppl on this blog have is to support you and encourage you to seek other help and sympathize. THAT’S IT.
good luck. I really hope things turn around for you and look happier soon.