Reply To: Many attempts were made for the Kallah. How would you proceed?

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Rav Moshe does compare Shaddchanus to S’chirus. Perhaps your S’vora of “even when family friends make a shidduch just as a chessed (which doesn’t seem to be the case here), shadchanus is expected, albeit maybe on a different scale” applies to make it a “Sadeh H’Asuya Litah”.

Hadri Bi.