apushatayid:
I would differentiate between things you do to yourself and things that affect other people. So that, certainly you can beat your wife and Hashem chooses not to stop you as far as regards you, but unless Hashem wants your wife beaten, He will not allow it.
Really, to say otherwise makes Hashem not control the world.
Why would we daven to Hashem to protect us from beating husbands, if Hashem doesn’t bother to or can’t?
Why would we ask Hashem for food, if a person could stop that?
Why would we ask Hashem for rain, if a person could burn our fields?
Everything that happens to us comes directly from Hashem’s will. That is the G-d I believe in. That is the only type of god I can imagine existing.