In the off chance my posts aren’t still being deleted, I’d like to say to Middlepath that I am so sorry for what you’ve been through and I really respect where you are now in spite of it.
B”H I am not a victim of sexual abuse cv”s, but this just may be an argument for female moderators. I think someone has to be either a victim or a mother to really feel the agony they feel. It stays with them the rest of their lives. It destroys their ability to trust authority figures and seriously compromises their ability to have functional relationships with family, friends, and a potential spouse (esp. when the victim has received no treatment and/or it’s been swept under the rug “for the sake of shidduchim”).
Our precious kinderlach go off the derech for lesser reasons than this. Comparing frum offender rates to the general population doesn’t work because there are so few of us to begin with. One is too many!!