Reply To: Very disturbing, please only kind people read.

Always, I respect you greatly for your honesty and realistic perspective. Here’s a suggestion: Ask DH how much he thinks it’s your fault and how much his. I don’t think he’ll say it’s 100% yours and 0% his. If he says it’s 99% yours and 1% his, say, “OK, I’m ready, willing and able to work on my 99%. Are you ready, willing and able to work on your 1%?”