always runs with scissors fast- I am reposting part of what I wrote earlier as it appears it is becoming more and more on target.
DO NOT blame yourself. Everyone is responsible for their own actions.
IGNORE every post saying “I think your husband has this problem” or ” Your biggest problem is this..”
STOP posting anecdotes of what happened. There will be five different interpretations of everything you post and may not help you at all.
You and your husband both need professional help, both medical and social/emotional. GO GET THAT HELP. Do not try to use the CR as a substitute until then.
Hatzlocha Rabbah