cheftza –
I would not serve you food that you wouldn’t eat. As for keilim, even according to the others who say my way is wrong, that should not automatically render them not kosher. Ask your rav. I personally know of someone who asked a shaila in such a situation (i.e. married into such a family) and the rav (very mainstream) said it was okay. Once we are just dealing with keilim there is a lot of wiggle room.