DY, I guess we will have to disagree because the system does NOT teach the boys to respect their mothers, to help at home, to help prepare for Shabbos, etc. The system teaches the boys to expect and they will receive. How many young men pick themselves up off their chairs and lend a hand? They expect their mothers and sisters to do everything for them. How many young men help without being asked? How many young men offer to run errands instead of hang out with their own friends and concentrate only on their own needs and what “Mommy” can do for them? How many young men call their hosts before shabbos to see if there is anything they can help with, especially when they are regular guests?
Why aren’t they taught responsibility, respect, hakaros hatov? All values that would help shape them and help them mature and grow. By feeding them the concept “expect and you will receive” it just allows them to be immature and unrealistic.