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A good shadchan does a lot more than just present a name (DY reply)
C’mon. No one is that out of touch.
Anyone who reads the papers knows what the Shadchan’s goal is, whether subtle or not, and one of their reason$ for pushing an older girl over a younger one (to some very much the Ikar unfortunately, to some the Tafel). If Shadchanim earning more money wouldnt be a great incentive to work harder for older girls, this initiative wouldnt have been created (barf) :-o. Nasi admits that. Boys and their mothers are very well aware of this.
You can talk til youre blue in the face, when a Shadchan calls to red an older girl, boys and mothers know what the Shadchan is up to, no matter how skillful the Shadchan is (the NASI initiative took the lishma and special Schar away from the Shadchan in exchange for $$$), proving to all how money-centric many in our community are, and how we allow it and even encourage it (barf again)!