Let’s try again, Josh. I assume you didn’t read my previous posts.
Every frum woman has a right to choose a husband who will go out to work. This may come as a shock to you & every else on your band wagon – they also have a right to choose a husband who will learn in kollel! Like I wrote before (over & over), it’s the couple’s choice. Not mine. Not even your’s. It’s their lifestyle & destiny they’re forging, they don’t necessarily have to follow your’s.
In my humble opinion, there’s nothing wrong with the wife deciding she wants more from life, a ‘derhoibene’, uplifting, accomplished, spiritual lifestyle, a Torah-dig home, a holy mikdash me’at, where Torah & mitzvohs rule. Where she knows he’s supporting fully with ruchnius and she’ll fill in the rest. No, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that arrangement.