the statement below is not intended to be about the woman in question as she claims she is observant and i am not about to question her on that.
but…
i know i am not particularly liked around here for this opinion but my view has always been: if someone wants to leave the fold then just let them.
judaism is about quality not quantity and has historically been that way. id rather have a powerful torah observant jewish nation than one diluted with the drek that is the american jew.
they are happier leaving, we should be just as happy. you want to intermarry? go right on ahead. marry the same gender? mazal tov!
i dont see the point in keep unaffiliated jews tied to a religion they will come to hate. hashem gives them bechira why should man take that away from them? trust me, the jewish nation will survive and flourish beautifully with or without garbage jews like noam chomsky, norm finklestein, elmer berger and similar anti semites. i wish these people were not jewish. what good does it do for anyone (other than having a nice channuka song come out once every few years) that all these hollywood guys are jewish? why should i want all these people to stay jewish?
being jewish is a privilege and an honor and if someone does not appreciate that privilege then quite frankly they shouldnt have it.
id very much love to see a jewish world which is 75% observant with zero reformed temples and the best way to get to that dream is intermarriage and gay marriage. i support them both.