000646: American courts are as corrupt as they get. Whatever problems may exist in beis din, they are thousands of times worse in secular court.
Furthermore, if the wife tries to discard the Torah and halacha in using arkaos (secular court) against halacha to seek more favorable treatment in custody and asset distribution issues, the beis din would be correct to advise her to also try to get her “get” issued by a secular court. Since if she refuses to use beis din when she is halachicly required to for money and custody issues, beis din in turn will not be at her service in getting a “get” for her. She shouldn’t think that when it suits her needs she can choose to demand beis din help her get a halachic get, when at the same time she refuses follow halacha in other areas beis din has halachic jurisdiction.