“Also, not that it’s my business, but some advice: don’t say no to a girl because she went off the derech and returned (or because of her past). Sometimes those people are more sincere and stronger than people who had it easier.”
Excellently said, Queen Bee. That’s what I’ve been saying as well. Many times, people that have gone through difficulties or have “been around” come out so much stronger and more capable than the average, regular person who hasn’t been in those situations. I personally think that I need a girl who’s gone through something or has “been around” and is still a positive, genuine person.
So, KTC, I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. And if you do want some more options, you don’t only have to go through a shadchan. Try asking friends, acquaintances, or even go out and do it yourself.