QB and MP: I agree. I would never be as strong and solid with my beliefs had I not “been around”.
BUT, I would suggest that one should do extensive research before going out with someone like that.
KTC: IMHO, if girls were hurt “physically” that’s a BIG red flag. Hatzlacha. May you find your bashert soon.
Miritchka: You’re right. What matters most is what you are inside. But one’s dresscode, hairstyle, etc. can often show what they are in the inside.