I really do understand what you’re saying. Here’s the story: I don’t know how much you know about me and my family and my father, but needless to say, you can find it all here: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/life-as-the-son-of-a-child-molester-my-story
After you’ve read that, you will see that yes, I was extremely hurt and in incredible emotional pain for years. That is something that, I think I’m safe in saying, most people would not be able to go through and come out normal. So yes, I grew from that pain, became a better person, used it for my benefit, which is of course of G-d wanted.
Now, because I’m basically past all that pain, I, personally, can’t really think of anything that would happen to me that I wouldn’t be able to see the good in. So perhaps I am unique and I’m the only person to think like that. But that is where I’m coming from. Understand?