Ah, but you do want to modify it.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/enough-talk-on-shidduchim/page/3#post-120031
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/enough-talk-on-shidduchim/page/3#post-120121
But you get credit for http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/enough-talk-on-shidduchim#post-119178