Hmmm…Just using your logic, cheftze. It sounds so nice to find an achron who agrees with (what are apparently) your feelings about dominating your wife as a method of harmony in marriage, but, like you did, I questioned how someone in later doros could question those in earlier ones. I found that, like you, I had ample support for my position, only mine was sourced from Mishna, Gemoro, and kisvei rishonim.
I guess what is good for the goose is not good for the gander…
Oh, and you are inclining me to look at mochoh timche’s posts in a more positive light. At least he was saying the placement of a foot COULD have an INFLUENCE on the progress of a marriage that could last for decades with all of its ups and downs. You seem to be advocating that a few seconds of stepping on toes WILL and SHOULD be the DETERMINANT in the face of much halachic opinion to the effect that such domination is at wide variance with halocho and yesodei hatoroh.