Patri, I am having a challenging time reconciling facts, evidence, experience, and knowledge with your assertions. My current issue is that YOU take the statement as absolute, and that is not something you can prove or justify. You, baruch hashem, are not divorced, and the segula has apparently worked for you. My ex walked around me seven times under the chuppah, and that was supposed to be a segula for her and I and the shlaimus of our marriage. Obviously, it didn’t work. I hope that it continues to work for you, but how do you know with absolute certainty that it will. If you had asked me a number of years ago if I would get divorced, I would have said no. Obviously things can change.
I am sorry that you cannot distinguish between a segula and a halocho. Perhaps when you have more experience in the ups and downs of a marriage, in raising kids, in having a job, owning a house, dealing with illness, bereavement, and other yisurin, you may look at things in a more realistic light. In the Chesed L’Avraham, you are taking an interpretive stance of a peirush on a part of the Tanach that was written in a complete allegory meikoroh, and you are adamant about its application in every instance. That is not a very discerning or mature approach. May HKBH bless you with wisdom.