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I’m sorry, I accidentally posted this under someone else’s username (long story)… mods, could you please erase that last comment?
“It’s possible for a person to be a CEO, or an electrician, or a garbage collector and still have a seat right next to Rebbi Akiva in Olam Haba.”
Possible? Yes. Likely? Not by a long shot.
“but that seminaries indoctrinate girls that “they deserve” the best shidduch possible”
Honestly, I believe that this attitude is one of the primary factors in most of the problems we have today. Shidduch crisis? The boy thinks he “deserves” full support, looks, etc, the girl thinks she “deserves” her checklist. Divorces skyrocketing? Everyone thinks they “deserve”, and therefore wrongly expects, to automatically be completely and thoroughly happy, always. Parnasa? Everyone believes they “deserve” to live their lives in comfort and style, regardless of whether they can pay for it or not. I don’t think this attitude of entitlement is a problem that starts or ends with seminaries and shidduchim; I think it’s from the biggest and most wide-ranging issues that this generation faces.