It is amazing to see how so many people know so much about the topic of dating. People tried giving me their 10 cents, there are so many opinions as to what should be done in a dating scenario/career it sounds like it should be different for each person.
Bottom line is curiosity just be yourself and forget these stereotypical in the box brainwashed girls who, awesome quote from before “rochel emainu” girls. Don’t think that the only frum girls want kollel. My experience and I just got engaged last month after a somewhat interesting career of dating there are plenty of nice frum girls who do not necessarily want that greasy kollel guy. Like my username says He is the most important factor in your shidduch and ignore everyone else(including myself :0). She is out there the non brainwashed and non kollel interested girl who is frum and right for you. So says the good Lord.
Btw who determines what the best shidduch is?