vochindik – what a meaningful response to someone who seems to have been pushed away by her family and community.
When I learn about what the Torah permits me and any other Jew to do, Name calling those who don’t observe mitzvos after having been abused and then rejected by frum society is pretty much at the bottom of any list I could imagine. I guess you and I have different priorities.
One of the most disgusting things I encounter in our frum and chareidi circles is the insistence, the visceral need to put down “the other” – be it a non frum Jew, a gentile, or someone who holds a less machmir shita – as part of one’s “frum” identity.
That is not what frumkeit is about, that is not what menschlichkeit is about, and it demeans the individual who does it as much as the one who it is aimed at.