RebRY
Please do not let plain bad manners and small mindedness take away the thrill and achievement of being you. The problems of the frum world are not about being jewish, but about being human and giving into weakness and temptation, everyone has a bechira point, and as Rabbi Dessler said, for many frum people lashon hara is that very vice. Ignore them, they are beneath you and everyone else, the dysfunctionality around us is due to inept parenting and superficial communal exptectation and pressures, a very dangerous combination.