Ah, I see what you mean now. Yes, there are times when G-d wants us to use seemingly “negative” traits to serve him. Because, every middah can be used in a good way and in a bad way. I agree with you about that. However, here’s the thing: That is the absolute minority. I think that most of time, being an accepting, calm, peaceful person is how G-d wants us to be. Also, I think that even that minority lacks clarity, for the following reason: So a person isn’t supposed to show pity and support to someone who “strays from G-d”. The problem is that since there are many, many different interpretations of how to serve G-d in our generation, it is inevitable that someone raised in a certain sect will find himself being able to be closer to G-d in another, for whatever reason. So now, should his original sect berate him for that?? I don’t think so. So, I think one should be VERY careful about that. I do agree though that there is no place in Judaism for gay marriage. And yes, we must completely wipe out amalek when the time comes.
I think that in a perfect world, where everyone knows exactly the correct way to serve G-d (like when we received the torah), it is correct to ostracize those who rebel against G-d. But we are not in that world right now. The vast majority of Jews don’t follow your lifestyle, or even mine. And we cannot ostracize and condemn them for that, because since basic emunah is so lacking, anything they will view as negative from us can cause greater damage than good.
So yes, I agree with your above post if we were living in a world like when we received the torah. And when mashiach comes, we will be in that world, and even greater. Until then, I think we should be cautious.
That’s all I can post right now. Thanks for this discussion, and have a wonderful chag!