popa_bar…the point wasn’t that it was getting sidetracked into other subjects. What Binah was saying is that it was a thread where we were “helping” others & then it sidetracked into “hurting” others.
And, telling a boy to gain or lose weight is not the same as telling a girl that. Girls are much more sensitive in this type of area; telling a girl that she is ugly is like telling a guy that he will never be succesful in his studies and/or career.
However, if you tell a guy that he is ugly & a girl that she won’t be succesful in her studies and/or career, then it’s just not the same….Popa_bar, I know that you understand that, but the teen boys (I assume they are, anyway) that write some of the comments on here are being way too harsh & don’t understand the issues of women’s feelings. Some of these guys don’t think that it’s a big deal to throw out these hurtful opinions.
MW13, some of the “boys” were not being defensive, they were being offensive.
To be defensive is to say, “I am entitled to my opinion & there is no reason that I have to change my opinion in what I prefer.” Some of the guys did that, but others began straight out attacking.