Granted if “metabolism, medication, insulin, etc.” prevented success hishtadlus wouldn’t require that result.
if you re-read her OP, it would appear that that is the case and that she is doing her hishtadlus in this area. 2nd of all, the next person who wrote writes a lot on the diabetes thread, and she too is very disturbed by her difficulty in losing weight and fear of not finding her shidduch because of that.
actually, if read the diabetes thread, ’tis a little scary. seems like at least one girl has gone or has contemplated going without her insulin just so she can lose weight.
i don’t know if you can imagine what a sick world, us girls live in.
i have a friend who i can only see once every few years. every single time i see her, almost the first words out of her mouth is that she is on some medication or something that causes her to keep some added, unwanted pounds on. i truly couldn’t care less if she weighs 10 pounds less or not, but it obviously bothers her tremendously. (AND SHE IS NOT ABNORMAL – SHE IS SOOOOO TYPICAL!)
another person i know who is a size 2 already, who is not anorexic, non-stops talks about how she’s been bad with her eating and how much she has to exercise, for as she’s getting older, she’s getting a little heavier. (as stated before, she’s still a size 2!)
this is normal girl/woman conversation – so having men remind women of how thinness is worshipped in this society, does NOT help; it only hurts.