Just want to say to all those who are not “fat” but just not super thin that I was a size 12-14 from a divorced home and I got married right away to my 2nd shidduch B”H. and if you asked my husband if he wanted to marry someone fat he’d say no way (and he is also super skinny) but he didn’t see me as being overweight at all – that is what he was attracted to.
So realize that it is all min hashamayim. DEFINITELY do your histadlus to be as in shape and as put together as you can be – but after that just be yourself! and Hashem will send you the right one be”H – when He determines it’s the right time!
and to the guys who CAN’T consider someone fat – don’t listen to your mothers/sisters/friends who tell you what size to ask for (or which sizes to nix immediately) – as long as pple aren’t saying she’s fat, give it a one date chance at least – a 12 to even a 16 if tall enough can easily have a figure and not look fat at all – you may even decide she is super attractive to boot (not to mention all their qualities as a person but I specifically did not mention that as it sounds like a “consolation prize” – she’s fat, but she’s a great person….I’m saying you may be surprised that if pple didn’t put numbers in your head you may not even think they are overweight at all and may be extremely attracted!!)