Wisey – you make the assumption that men don’t want to be biased by the looks. I think most do. Like it or not boys have choices, girls don’t. ONE of the big things for nearly EVERY [healthy] guy is physical attraction. When a guy has a list with pictures, the pretty pictures [in his opinion] jump out. As they should. Some people may like heavier girls. Most don’t. They pick the girls that are best for them.
Unlike the rest of a resume, looks are easily verified, so therefore hard to falsify, making it the easiest big factor to check up on. We should be encouraging pictures, to allow looks to be a factor before the first date in my opinion. Saves time, money, frustration, etc. Having the first meeting by phone just avoids dealing with this major IMPORTANT factor.
To those saying men are shallow for wanting to marry what they are naturally attracted to, and should choose to go out with heavier girls when all other things equal there are pretty ones out there, I say be realistic!
No one is saying ALL obese and heavy people choose to be that way (though many do), just that the condition is unattractive to many. Just like a man would choose a girl with white teeth over a girl with brown moldy teeth (all other things being equal), and no one would or could fault him, even if the girl was born with a genetic predisposition for moldy teeth and cosmetic surgery wasn’t an option, the same should apply to weight.