You are not fooling anyone here when you say “Ii am purely motivated by arevus and concern.” please dont fool yourself into thinking it either. You have a negiah, she hurt you, you are still hurting.
How do I know? The 1st line of your 1st post
>>I found out that my ex-fiance left me for another guy.<<
You didn’t say that she is about to marry someone else, your focus is on the “She Left You”. You very much feel hurt by her. You even said 5 months ago that it was a bad break up and you were looking to move on, seems like you haven’t (http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/chesed-opportunities#post-383641)
Don’t blame me, blame Freud.