Reply To: Who Should be Giving Tochecho to Whom?

Actually, Daas Yochid, I am not attacking Chareidi practice at all, even though I disagree with parts of it. If it works for you and your family and your kehilo, so be it. I think it is entirely valid to practice yiddishkeit in the way that conforms to your worldview and that of your Rov, with the one caveat that it not infringe on the rights of someone who has a different manhig and a different interpretation – which interpretation may be fine for you to judge for yourself, but not for someone else unless he asks for your guidance (as per the halocho I quoted above).

My “attack” is on the presumption. My “attack” is on the gaiva. My “attack” is on the dismissive way in which some here feel it is appropriate to talk about God fearing Jews. My “attack” is on the assumption that there is no eilu voeilu, unless it is a difference between two leaders of the same chareidi element of the community. My “attack” is on the disdain shown to Talmidei Chachomim among the MO world. I fully recognize that the MO world, like the Chareidi world, is not without problems.

Why, oh why does there have to be competition and comparison, even of “attacks”, for goodness sake? I don’t care if my “attack” is “better” or “worse”. Those are completely arbitrary words. My “attack” is different, because it aims at hurtful words and deeds, not at individuals, leaders, communities, and an entire worldview. It is different, because it respects difference.

I hope that you can understand this.