Pac: correct and thus if you are succesful in overhauling the livtvishe yeshiva system to have the boys begin dating at 20 – more power to you. (I am neither agreeing or disagreeing as to whether that would be a good idea, and truth be told my opinion is really ireelevant as that’s for the leaders of the generation to decide and implement. I’m simply pointing out the obvious, that it would greatly alleviate the age gap problem.)
I for one prefer to work with attainable solutions which is why I’m such a big fan of what the NASI project has been doing over the last few years.
Nothing radical – just slowly but surely encouraging close in age shidduchim. Slowly but surely generating more attention for the girls who didn’t just start dating. and coming soon – The boys starting to date slightly younger.
Of Course: of course you are correct 🙂 I was simply re-stating your point. But the girls do start at 19 and many get married then or very early 20.