OOmis -“But there is no reason for the other female members of the household not to light, and it is mehudar for there to be several menorahs shining.”
OOmis -LOOk Up! Plenty of Shittos saying Women and Girls Should Not light and it isn’t Mehudar.
I personally – when I was married – gave my girls the choice, but not my wife. I think they lit until Bas Mitzva, but not after that.