Reply To: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?!

i also know a case where a couple were set up, through mutual acquaintances (family members etc.), and got engaged. when one of the ‘official shadchaniot” who had suggested shiduchim to one of the parties heard about the engagemnet, she said “oh , no ididn’t get a chance to check this shidduch out”. the families had done the checking and were satisfied. the shidduch Baruch Hashem went through without any difficulties, monetarily or otherwise, everything was agreed upon by the families themselves. sometimes the shadchanim pasel shiduchim for their own reasons. , so when Hashem makes it happen that they are bypassed its probably for a reason we are not aware of. We really know very little about the way the world really works, we just think we do. incidentally, after this couple got engaged everyone who heard about it and knew the couple said, It’s so matim, how come we did’t think of suggesting it!”